Well-Meaning Remarks
So many people want to be a help to those who are going through a period of separation and/or divorce. They offer well-meaning comments and prayers, but some of those well-meaning comments don't come across quite the way I think the people mean them. I've heard people at funerals tell the grieving parent that it was "God's will" for their child to die. This is not what should be said to someone grieving, during the funeral, or at visitation! No comfort is offered by hearing that God wanted your child to die. Mis-placed words during the death of a relationship are no less hurtful. "I never liked him/her, anyway." "You'll be fine. You'll get over this." "You'll find someone else in no time." "God hates divorce." "If you had worked harder on your marriage, maybe you could have avoided all this." You know, I didn't marry her because you liked or didn't like her. I know I'll be ...